“I’m 54 Years Old, And I’m Not Going To Change!”
March 5, 2013 9 Comments
Sometimes, when I’m engaged in conversation with someone, they’ll say something like:
“You know what? No way. I’m 54 years old, and I’m not going to change! I’m sorry, it’s just not going to happen.“
When confronted with such a response, I don’t know what to say. I usually just end up looking at the person, scrunching my eyebrows and scratching my head.
Honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever said this in conversation, which is why it confuses me. (If you know me personally, please point out if I’m wrong …)
When I was in my early twenties, I took this response as a put-down (as in: listen you little twerp, I’m far wiser than you; what you’re asking me to do is stupid…), but now that I’m in my 30’s and much more mature (come on, I’m joking), I’m even more confused.
I’m confused because I find myself changing.all.the.freakin’.time. I don’t think I’m unique in that way. I see people changing all around me. Aren’t you changing, too?
As I reflect on this response, I’m left with an observation and two questions:
- Observation: I think I typically hear this response from people older than me
- Question: In general, what do people really mean by this? What are they trying to tell me?
- Question: Twenty years from now, will I also say this?
What I believe to be true is that I’m 34 years old, and I’m definitely going to change.
What do you think? If you have any insight, or if you’re uttered these words yourself, please share your thoughts.